My approach to Therapy

     Whether you are an individual or couple your sexuality should not be shied away from in therapy. Sex-positive therapy holds the view that sex is an important part of a healthy adult’s life. Sexuality should neither be neglected nor a source of shame. Sex is an avenue for exploring one’s deeper, erotic self. Through it, we can learn about the unconscious drives and desires that motivate us. In my practice, I’ve found that exploring and developing my client’s erotic language allows them to become more free and confident in their lives outside the therapy room. I use a combination of self-inquiry and experiential exercise assignments to help my clients connect with their sexuality, eliminate their shame and inhibition, and reclaim their birthright as fully developed, confident sexual beings. 

     My therapeutic approach also draws from Narrative Therapy. In this method, we work together to gain a better understanding of your existing narratives of self (stories about who you are), which are often outdated and ineffective. Often our stories are heavily impacted by our history and current political climate, whether or not we are aware of it. Together, we can empower you toward the redevelopment and recreation of your storylines about yourself and your life. Your new narrative will emphasize the qualities you most value in yourself and give you the tools to be in the world in a way that feels deeply satisfying. This method offers opportunities for fun, interactive exercises as a means of healing and growing.

Couples Therapy

      I also practice general couple's therapy geared to help couples struggling a wide array of concerns ranging anywhere from communication, infidelity, pre-marital therapy, conscious uncoupling, divorce, sexual desire gaps, to the mundane disagreements of daily life. My approach to couple's therapy is based on attachment theory and will help you and your partner function more securely as a couple whatever your goals might be. This is a psychobiological empirically based model of couple's therapy that is very effective and has proven time and time again to work with even with the most difficult cases. 

The Key Questions We Ask in Our Relationships:

  • Are you really going to be there for me?

  • Do I really matter to you?

  • Can I turn to you for support and unconditional love?

  • If I am hurting or afraid, will you come to me?

  • Do you value me for who I am? Can I be my real self with you?

  • Are we in this together? Can I count on you to “have my back”?


Sophia has a deep commitment to her clients and their work in psychotherapy and creates a space of non-judgment, cultural competency and compassion for those choosing to work with her.  Her experience in the field of sex therapy and sex education is vast in its incorporation of inclusion, knowledge and understanding in the complexities and challenges that people face both in relationships and as individuals.  Her clinical skills, sensitivity and wisdom make her an excellent choice if you are seeking sex therapy, counseling or sex education.

Deb Azorsky, MA, LPC, CST

Boulder Center for Sexual Health

Sophia is by far the most talented and compassionate therapist I have ever had the pleasure of working with. I cannot recommend her highly enough! She has helped me embrace my sexuality and make big improvements in my life and in my relationships. I recently got married and when my husband and I were considering widening our sexual horizons, Sophia was there every step of the way. She patiently helped me process all of my feelings about the journey we were starting and mediated several conversations between my husband and I. Working with her made it such a wonderful and loving process. It brought my husband and I even closer together. If you are in need of a therapist, look no further because you have found an incredible one!

Heather Jedd, RN, BSN

Registered Nurse

Sophia is a gentle, open-minded, and compassionate counselor who works skillfully with folks in the LGBTQ community. As a process group leader, she guided my clinical staff through a day of meaningful conversation about our own queer identities and what we have to offer our clients. It’s clear to me that Sophia is dedicated to continually engaging in her own education so that she can best serve the people she works with. Sophia impresses me as a mindful, highly capable professional in our field. I highly recommend her to anyone seeking services.

Sorin Thomas, LPC, LAC

Executive Director & Clinical Supervisor, Queer Asterisk Therapeutic Services

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